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Friday, August 12, 2011


Cecilia @ Parenting Controversy

*giggle* There's a skinny blonde SAHM named Kristin that I see doing the drop off/pickup at my daughter's shcool. Everyone knows her name. Why? Because the license plate on her car says KRISTIN. :)


I have to say, I was slightly offended by your article. Truthful as it may be, in your eyes, you made some pretty hefty assumptions. I work, because I absolutely have to. If I didn't work, we wouldn't have the house we live in, the safer car, or food for that matter.

"Maids and private schools are corollary sources of envy. Again, SAHMs don’t envy the working mom, who presumably can afford these things. You must work to pay for them, which theoretically leaves you less time to spend with your kids"

Are you kidding me with this? You're most definitely "PRESUMING" wrong. I don't work to pay for maids or private schools. These things are "extras", good-to-haves, but not necessities. I work to pay for the necessities.

"We loathe our spouses even more. For not appreciating whatever we do to keep the household running, even if it's not that stressful."

Try working a full-time job, coming home to take care of your children, cook meals, do laundry and clean, all between the hours of 5PM and 10PM. THEN not being appreciated for it.

"We actually enjoy volunteering at our kids’ schools and taking them to the playground afterwards. We don’t see working moms interact with their kids this way and assume you’re just too busy."

If this isn't one of the most pompous statements about working moms, I don't know what is. Don't you think that we'd like to take our kids to the park and volunteer at their schools? You're right, we are busy, but that ABSOLUTELY doesn't mean that we don't interact with our children. We can take them to the park on Saturday and Sundays, or in the evenings in the summer when it's still warm. And just because you may not see us at 1:00 in the afternoon volunteering at school, doesn't mean that we didn't bake 3 dozen cookies to contribute.

If I wanted to make some asinine comments about SAHM's, I could say that working moms arguably appreciate their time with their kids MORE, because they're not home with them all day. But I would NEVER make the assumption that every SAHM feels this way. NEVER.

I just can't believe, that you could say, with all the seriousness in the world, that you think you're a better parent than a working mother. And, honestly, I feel bad for the SAHM's who you lumped into that category that actually RESPECT the decision to go back to work. I have lots of working-mom friends, and every one of us actually wish we could be at home, cleaning toilets. YES, cleaning toilets. The grass is always greener, sure. Maybe if we were home, we'd miss the hustle and bustle of our day jobs. But nothing, NOTHING compares to being a mommy. And the fact that you make the assumption that ALL WORKING MOM'S don't care to be at home, or volunteering, and that we're merely paying for maids and private schools is beyond me.

I can respect your for speaking what you feel is the truth. But I think you need to check your facts. Possibly you should stop watching "The Real Housewives" and get a clue on what REAL working moms do. <-- see how that feels? You probably don't watch that show. But I made the assumption that you did.

I sure hope there are some SAHM's out there that can understand how the working mother feels. And if there aren't, then maybe I don't want to be a SAHM - I would never want to think that about another mother.


^Couldn't have said it better myself. Amen.


I would respect your opinion if you had any respect for us working moms. We work to make our children's lives better. Ya lucky you that you get all that extra time to do what us working moms still have to do. I had a chance to not work but I also realized that working part time not only helped out the family but gave my child a chance to interact with others in a way that they can't when mom is up their butt 24/7.


I'm a SAHM and in no way agree with what you said. I would never have the gall to assume a working mother is less of a parent just because they work. I am friends with several working moms and know that they love their children as much as I love mine, and are just as devoted to them as I am to mine. It shouldn't matter if a mother works or not. Does that mean she loves her children less? No. Does that mean she enjoys being away from them most of the day? No. In my opinion, you should have more respect. Working mothers are just as good a parent as anyone else, and it's unfair to judge them because they work, let alone make the claims you do. Please do not lump all SAHM into your categories, because this SAHM would never make assumptions like that. I love every minute I get with my son but I'll bet I would appreciate it that much more if I was working too.


First off, as somebody who is mixed race (half black and half white), I have to say that if you are really sectioning yourself off into tiny little groups every time you're at a playground, whether they be based on social status, race, gender, or stupid hobbies, you're denying yourself and I can only presume your children an entire world of diversity and possibility. We learn a great deal from those who are different than us, probably the first lesson being that our "differences" are seldom as deep-seeded as we might at first believe.
Second, my mother raised me on her own and often had to work two or three jobs to support us. I couldn't have imagined a better or more loving parent. On her behalf I'd like to say that your article really stinks.

Kristin. One of many. MANY. We're all forming a super group.

Wait, is this a joke?
Why would you want to present yourself as an example to your children by forming groups that exclude other women and obsess about looks rather than, say, being a lawyer or scientist or any number of other worthy occupations? I'd love to stay at home with my son, but I sure would rather focus on him instead of being nasty to other moms. I'm tempted to believe this is supposed to be a sarcastic article and not to be taken as the author's real feelings. Because this is just bizarre.


I'm thinking this is meant to be a joke. Next time be funnier. That way you won't get a bunch of people all riled up making a** clowns of themselves and you.


What about all of the women who would give almost anything to stay at home with their kids, but are so energized by their careers that they are better moms because they work? It took me three years before I could even think about leaving my career, and even then it took some highly extenuating circumstances to get me to take the plunge. But becoming a sahm didn't make me a better mother, it just changed the way I wrote my To Do list... and even wo my traditional work, I still have so many balls in the air that my list is never done.

Got a great read on the subject. Quick, fun, but gets to a lot of the issues we're talking about. AT THE CORNER OF WALL AND SESAME. Lmk if any of you are up for an on line book club.

Rogue Housewife

Wow! I just read the last half-dozen comments on this article. Sorry to those of you who were offended. But it was meant to be provacative. I viewed this piece as analytical of stay-at-home moms, not working moms. So, I was a bit surprised at some of the reactions. I can only surmise that my first observation--that SAHMs don't envy working moms and think they're superior--stuck with you more than the other four observations.

Well, please tune in tomorrow as I will offer the FIVE THINGS WORKING MOMS DON'T WANT STAY-AT-HOME MOMS TO KNOW. I hope you'll notice the similarities. And I can't wait to hear your thoughts!

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