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Tuesday, December 22, 2009


Jodie Randisi

I 100% agree although it will seem as though I contradict myself when I tell you I'm the author of the book 201 Things to Do When Children Say I'M BORED! The Checklist and Journal for Busy Families.

I believe it is NOT our responsibility to pave the road for our children. It is, however, a good idea to provide a decent roadmap. Actually, the whole premise of the book is to get parents to spend more time WITH their children - so it was written for those of us who need a gentle reminder and though we may have good intentions of spending time with our children, we sometimes don't have enough good ideas.

Thanks for your post.

Jodie Randisi
My parental musing...


My standard answer to "I'm bored" is "You say that as if it's a bad thing, but really it's not." The child still doesn't believe me, however. (My older child is a bookworm and I don't think I've EVER heard her say she's bored...hoping the younger one gets there someday.)

We do ourselves a disservice to not let our kids be bored ... that's where creativity comes from!! In real, grown up life, the most amazing things we can do is when we *come up with them ourselves* -- we don't want kids who are dependent upon others telling them what to do when, for the rest of their lives.

So let them be bored! Let them wallow in it! Awesome!

Al Henderson

"Downtime" ... it's not just for kids.

Fern Weis

Another aspect of the difficulty kids (and adults) have with boredom/downtime is that they don't know how to give their brain some down time either. Have you noticed how antsy kids are when they have to just sit for a few minutes without activity, or video or background sound?

As a parent, teacher, and parent coach, I see this all the time, and experience it myself, too. And yet, if you just sit quietly, looking out a window, lying down under a tree, petting an animal... give your mind a chance to slow down and wander... well, this is probably where the term 'absent-minded' really comes from.

Just as our body needs rest, so does our brain. It is not something that will come easily, especially in a world of constant sensory bombardment; in a society that pushes us to achieve and set goals 24/7.

Think about finding a comfortable spot to sit with your child - a sofa, bed, lounge chair. Take comfort in each other's physical presence, and just... be... (A wonderful benefit to this is the conversations that can begin here.) Start out doing this once a week. You might find that you will both be more relaxed, and that you are creating a wonderful ritual and memories to go with it.

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