Sharing Saturday
Dominating the news (once again it seems) was the breaking story about a celebrity who cheated on his spouse. To complicate matters, it was with two people that he worked with. It was as if there were two simultaneous mindsets that occurred with David Letterman’s confession: the first was, "So?" and the second was watching the train wreck of yet a celebrity mistake. I seemed to fall into the former category. At this point, when sitting presidents commit adultery in the same breath as celebrities, it is almost tiring news.
What can we learn from it? No marriage is completely adultery proof. What do I mean by that? It depends on what your definition is of cheating. For some, cheating can be of the mind, such as a lurid thought about someone other than your spouse. For others, cheating is full-on sexual relations (either defined by Bill Clinton or just accepted norms of what that means).
How many of us ONLY think about their spouses and are immune to thoughts about members of the opposite (or same) gender, especially those that we find attractive. Can such thoughts really break up a marriage? I would argue, and would be supported by studies, that such thoughts and fantasies can actually fuel a marriage rather than deplete it.
We are human, and though we might support the institution of marriage or partnerships, that does not mean that we put on blinders the moment that we say "I do."Here are simple things that can be done to keep your marriage on track:
- Commit to a regular "Date Night"
- When it is the two of you, limit the time talking about housekeeping items or children
- Share your fantasies and attractions with one another
- Do something new together (in or out of the bedroom)
- Hold hands
- Just kiss
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