By Tanya Bunich
Relationships…. ahhhhh….as the saying goes "can’t live with them can’t live without them."
Why are relationships so complicated and difficult? For starters we are all individuals that grow up in different environments with different rules and ideas and have our own set pool of genes. Then we find a man, fall in love and expect to live in love and in harmony till death do us part.
One day we wake up and that loving feeling is just not there, we panic and start to ask what’s wrong. Is it me, is it him, is it us?
Then we begin to look for reasons, if he would only take out the garbage, or clean the dishes or fold the laundry then that loving feeling would still be there.
Although those are great thoughts I don't believe that’s what takes away that loving feeling. I believe those great love feelings get taken over by life. The stress of everyday responsibilities, work, kids, carpools, community & religious obligations are all too great.
The focus moves away from the "us" to "life" and keeping the "us" while managing the "life" is were in lies the difficulty. All the books, articles and therapists advise to have at least one date night per week, but how many of us really do even that. I would bet most don't even have a real date night once a month and many never at all. Dinner is not necessarily a date night. Its not the dinner, the park or the show. It's about the focus on the "us". You have to pick a quite place where you ca really relax and reconnect, you cannot talk about work, bills or kids, as cute as they are. Just, about the "us." Try it and let me know if it works!! I love feedback.
Comments