Yesterday, Working Mother magazine released What Moms Choose: The Working Mother Report, a detailed analysis of the findings from a nationwide survey of 3,781 moms (of the working and stay-at-home varieties) that sheds light on how women feel about the paths they pick and the challenges they face. I'm on a business trip out of the country so I haven't had time to explore the report fully, but even in my jet-lagged state one finding stood out, actually screamed out to me.
It's this - that both working mothers and stay-and-home moms reported that they worry about - and feel most judged about - "HOW CLEAN MY HOUSE IS." In the survey, co-sponsored by Ernst & Young, 55% of working moms and 44% of stay-at-home moms reported worrying about domestic dishevelment, while 42% of the working moms and 35% of the stay-at-home moms surveyed thought others judged them on their state of their homes.
I find this totally shocking. I can relate somewhat to the other top working mom concerns - not taking care of yourself, not having enough time with your kids or your partner - but worrying more about having a clean house than spending time with my kids or husband? NO!
Of course, for those of you who know me well or follow me here on CurrentMom, that probably doesn't surprise you. I've admitted to my aversion to housework before and confessed that I don't make my bed. (Check out my earlier housework blog for some very interesting research on social roles and evolving housework trends.)
My motto (which, by the way hung on my mom's kitchen wall), is "My house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy." The bottom line -- I'd rather be spending my time with my husband and kids - or working - than cleaning. And, as long as my house isn't filthy or completely cluttered, I really don't care what anyone thinks!
But . . . my parents are coming to visit us this weekend and will be arriving on Friday afternoon before I return home from my trip later that day. So, excuse me for this shorter-than-usual post. I need to go call my husband and ask him to tidy up before they come. At least, wipe off the toothpaste that I know my five-year-old has squirted all over the bathroom sink my parents will share with him. (Thanks in advance, honey!) I guess I am a concerned after all! At least, a little . . . .
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