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Friday, August 12, 2011



Your self esteem has to be really low to devalue another woman for ANY choice that she's making. And anyone else that's agreeing with this negative "garbage" needs to take a long hard look in the mirror. At the end of the day, there's enough forces out there to attack women such as deaths related to birth control; or why there's no cure for breast cancer but yet we choose to spend our time judging our neighbor for a decision that's clearly hers. This is really your advance degrees to fight another cause.


Great article. Working moms know exactly what stay at home moms do all day - the same thing stay at home moms do on the weekends. Only they have to cram 50 hours of "lost" time spent working into one weekend. I have never met a SAHM who was jealous of working moms, yet at the same time I have never met a SAHM who was compassionate toward working moms. This is what gets my goat.


I know this post is a bit old, but I had to chime in here.

I'm a SAHM for the most part, but I do work one day a week cleaning a 5000 Sq. Ft. home for one of the "Extremely privileged" and fortunate SAHM types. I also live in a neighborhood full of these privileged types, and although I SAH most of the week, I do not come anywhere close to this lifestyle, nor do I associate with these type of SAH women. I wouldn't want to!

Two of my BEST friends are working Moms. In my opinion, these are the real women, the ones I relate best to (after all, I did work full time for 20 years prior to having my Child.)They bust their asses all week at work, and then spend their ENTIRE weekend running their kids to sports events, cleaning, food shopping, etc. They try to volunteer as much as possible at School, and the one Mom even Assistant Coaches her Daughter's basketball team during the week after work and on weekends. I honestly don't know how they heck she pulls this off!

The downside? They are both (one of them in particular)CONSTANTLY exhausted, cranky, and going at 100 MPH. They have their kids in about 100 after School and weekend sports/activities, which I think is an overkill and further adds to their stress.
As much as I respect them both, I do not envy them or their lifestyle in the least. My brain is not built the same way, and I would be so stressed it would surely affect my marriage since I have one of those cave-man type of Husbands that does nothing else but work and come home. I never complain because I have my job, he has his. We have a traditional marriage, although we would have tons more money if I worked full time. My Husband is an Elementary School Phys Ed Teacher, so we're not exactly rolling in the dough. I chose to stay home because my mental health and my marriage is more important than a paycheck.

So to sum up, having two close friends that work, I know it's not an easy life for them. I think we all respect each other though, and that's all that matters. Sometimes we have the ability to make choices, and sometimes we don't. They have guilt, and we SAHM's have guilt too, only in a different way.


I think being a "lifetime SAHM" is a recipe for failure and I agree with the poster who suggested you be a SAHM AND something else besides. Prepare yourself for a life outside of the home and kids eventually.

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