Boredom and Marriage

I have found that if you're married 10, 15, 20 years, you've reached a state that some call comfort and others call boredom.

So what exactly is the difference and what happens next? In my opinion, the difference is not in the marriages but in how the partners view life. The people who are bored are people who have a high threshold for fun, excitement and change. The people who are content, and are set and comfortable, are people who like stability, do not require a tremendous amount of newness or change and like to have the same meal schedule every week.

I find myself in the first category. I have a high threshold for fun and excitement, I NEED and crave change and I have never had a meal schedule. My husband on the other hand, is the polar opposite. He is all about stability, hates change and would LOVE!!! a consistent meal schedule (he has yet to ever get one from me.)

I often wonder which is better.  I think the comfort people live calmer and more content lives, because they are content. The ones like me have more fun and a lot more adventure and drama in our lives but are always looking for something that we don't have.

All that being said, in regard to marriage, those of us who get bored with longevity, and there are many of us out there: create change! Just one caveat, your spouse has to be willing to create that change with you to bring that fun and love back into the marriage. It's a joint venture. Good luck and have fun!

By Tanya Bunich

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